Something I see often with people I talk to is that self-image is intertwined with body-image. If the scale is up, self-worth goes down. If the scale is down, we feel undefeatable. Part of the reason I wrote the Blueprint is to encourage people to begin to separate their self-image from their body-image and begin redirecting that energy from a “perfect” body towards an amazing life.
Although I would encourage someone who is interested in this to invest in themselves and the Blueprint and/or coaching (I mean Black Friday sales are coming soon… just saying), I do want to discuss some very basic tips on how to begin to disconnect your body-image from your self-image. First, let me start by saying no one actually wants the “perfect” body. We want what we believe it will afford us. Second, let me remind you that your value is intrinsic and unwavering.
And I would love to be able to remind you of this daily, but my words mean nothing if you don’t believe it. So, how do you arrive at this place? It is time to redefine value. For example, when your value lies in your body, which will inevitably change over time, it feels fleeting, rather than permanent.
To do this, I think it’s time we stop focusing on value, and start placing the emphasis on valueS. Our values are what give our actions purpose. They are what motivate us. If you can define and reconnect with your values, you can discover that you hold so much purpose beyond your body.
One value I hold is acceptance. My ability to show up and create a space that is safe and welcoming of all is far more important, and of greater need, than my body’s ability to take up less space. And guess what? Those around me will remember me much more for this value and the qualities it inspires than they will for the size and/or shape of my body.
And understanding my values extends far beyond the kind of environment I hope to inspire around me. They have helped me discover my career path, create amazing relationships, excel in my academics, stand up for things that matter, and so much more. By recognizing my values, I have realized the value I hold.
The best part is, regardless of how I look, I still want to show up and create a life that is reflective of my values. I encourage you to write out your values and to be reminded that you hold purpose far beyond your body. You are an incredible being, and it is a shame that people have tried to contain all your wonder to one, insignificant, if I am being honest, aspect of yourself.